How safe am I to post nudes on disrob.ing?
disrob.ing uses end-to-end encryption to ensure that the only people who have access to anything you upload are the people who were in the room at the time you uploaded it.
The way it works means that even though the files are stored on a server, they’re encrypted using keys that are associated with your user account. Users can only see your content when they exchange keys through the Matrix verification process. This means that – for example – even though the web hosts have access to the server, they would only see meaningless encrypted binary if they tried to look at your files. This is different from encryption-in-transit as used by sites like Discord. Encryption-in-transit prevents network operators and ISPs from accessing your data, but the people who host the site have full access to your files. You can read more about Matrix’s end-to-end encryption in the Element documentation.
We have set all rooms to only allow people to see messages that are posted after they join. That means, when you post something, the only people who will see it are the people who are in the room at the time, and not anyone who joins in the future. If someone new joins and you don’t know who they are, you could chat with them a little first before posting anything.
While we’re in beta, disrob.ing has an open invitation and the rooms can be found by anyone who knows where to look for them. We don’t have a vetting, verification or vouching process for new users at this time but we might introduce one in the future if the open access doesn’t work from a safety perspective.
It’s important to note that while we have a rule that people mustn’t download your content, we cannot prevent this with technology. As soon as someone views your picture, it is technically on their computer and there are numerous ways they could capture it to circumvent our rules (even a screenshot would do this). We hope we’re building a friendly and moderately safe community but we can’t guarantee everyone is acting in good faith.
If you are concerned about pictures leaking, please consider anonymising them (by removing your face, tattoos and any unique items in the backdrop) or joining the games in a way that doesn’t involve posting nude pictures – there are plenty of other options to have fun!
We also have a privacy policy on this site that explains more about where your data is held and what responsibility we take as the processors of it.
Who is behind this community?
Whenever I use a new service, I want to know who is behind it, so I’m not going to hide behind an alias here. My name is Quinn (they/them): I’m a trans & non-binary non-monogamous person living just outside Leeds in Yorkshire. I have two partners and (apparently) more than that number of jobs. I’m an active member of the local LGBTQ+ community and I’ve been the organiser of a local non-monogamy support community for 12 years.
I created disrob.ing as a fun side project but not under the auspices of any business. The service runs on a server I have purchased and I have no intentions to use it to make money or sell you anything. I built this community because I wanted it to exist, and to take part in it. And because I have enough technical ability to make it happen.
If you’d like to chat more about who I am or learn more about me and my background before you join, you can contact me through this site.
Who is Bot?
Bot is not a human participant, it’s a Maubot. It is invited to rooms to help us play games.
Bot runs on a server at Ionos that we control. It does have access to the community but it doesn’t have any administrative access and it only logs messages that it is asked to help with. In order for Bot to help, it has to be in the room. If you invite it, it will automatically join the room within a few seconds.
To get Bot’s help, you need to say a specific instruction starting with a !. The ! is very important because that’s how Bot knows to pay attention to what you are saying.
!choose
Example:
!choose Hasnain | Steven | Francesca | Ffion
Bot will look at your list (separated by |) and pick one at random. This can be great for games like Truth or Dare where you want to pick a partner on your turn.
The choices can be any words or phrases – they don’t have to be the names of people present – so you can use this for many kinds of randomization.
!roll
Example:
!roll 2d6
Bot will roll the dice you ask it to roll (“2d6” means “two 6-sided dice”) and tell you what was rolled.
If you just say !roll without telling it what you want to roll, Bot will assume you want one 6-sided die.
!timer
Example:
!timer 60
Bot will start a timer for the given number of seconds and when it is done it will say “Time’s up”.
Bot will give the timer a name so you can tell which one it is (in case people start multiple timers at once!) You can also specify the name yourself like this:
!timer 30 blueteam
I have a game idea – how do I get people to play it?
We’re always interested in new game ideas!
Visit the page called other games to find out more about where and how we do this.
I’m asexual/aspec – is this space for me?
The goal of disrob.ing is for us to play flirty games, not necessarily sexual ones. We’d love for our community to be as inclusive of asexual and aspec people as any of the other sexualities we have present.
If you join this community, you will see nudity and sexual content. You are under no obligation to contribute in a way that is not comfortable for you, but you must be OK with seeing this content – we won’t be providing content warnings for this kind of content, since it is likely to be prevalent.
There’s a chance that because many of the games will revolve around sexual things, you may feel excluded. If that happens, please reach out to a moderator (e.g. in the Help room or by contacting us) and we’ll try to make sure the community plays some games that are fun for you too.
Will I be able to rejoin a room after I leave?
Our rooms are set to the “Space members only” access, which means Element will warn you they are not public when you try to leave them. It has a confusing message that says “You will not be able to rejoin without an invite”.
You will be able to rejoin any of the main disrob.ing rooms if you leave them at any time. You will, however, not be able to see any of the chat that happened while you were out of the room.
How do I delete my account?
To deactivate your account, you need to contact the admin of your homeserver. If you registered your account on matrix,org, you’ll need to follow their process. If it’s disrob.ing, please contact us and we’ll deactivate it right away.
Because of the way Matrix works, your account can only be deactivated, not deleted. The distinction is not a big one, since a deactivated account is removed from every room it is in, logged out of all devices, and prevented from logging back in.
Note that deactivating your user doesn’t get rid of messages you sent, unless you are the only user who can see them (for example, if everyone else leaves the room too). Before you deactivate your account, you should remove any messages you don’t want people to have access to, which you can do yourself through the Matrix app.